MARK@AUTHENTICMAN.COM

SHOP NOW

ONLINE STORE

4 Things People Don’t Understand About Resilience

by | Aug 22, 2021 | Masculinity, Success

4 Things People Don’t Understand About Resilience

by | Aug 22, 2021 | Masculinity, Success

WHEN YOU SPEND 157 days at sea being the first person to swim around the entire island of Britain—all 1,779 miles—through jellyfish, rough seas, a neck rubbed to bleeding by a wetsuit and a tongue fattened and battered by salt water, you learn a thing or two about resilience. Ross Edgley had been told by scientists he didn’t have the right body type for the challenge and by others that it was a ridiculous thing to do. Which didn’t stop him from completing the swim in November 2018 and writing The Art of Resilience the year after. We caught up with the extreme adventurer, who has also done a marathon while pulling a 1.4-ton car behind him and a triathlon carrying a 100-pound tree trunk to raise environmental awareness, about a few of the finer points of what keeps a person going through whatever the world coughs up.

Truth #1: “Sucking it up” won’t make you resilient

“In fact, it’ll break you. If you have a stone in your shoe during the first mile of a marathon, bearing it doesn’t do anything for you except make you miserable. So often, when I see athletes and military recruits grimacing during training, I ask them, ‘How is this helping you?’ ”

Truth #2: You can’t lie to yourself

“As I was swimming, I knew that if I put one arm in front of the other, I would circumnavigate Britain. But in the reality of the moment, I had a jellyfish tentacle stuck to my face and hadn’t showered or slept properly in months, and I made peace with it. Accepting the situation helps you formulate a plan. Resilience is stress strategically managed.”

Truth #3: Know how to fight—and how to dance

“There was a study in Frontiers in Human Neuroscience where cyclists who were shown pictures of people smiling had far greater resistance to fatigue than those who were shown frowning pictures. It’s like what you saw when Eliud Kipchoge broke the two-hour-marathon barrier with a slight smile on his face. Not once did he seem to grimace or fight—he was dancing the whole way.”

Truth #4: Your reasons to continue need to be bigger than your reasons to quit

“If you love what you’re doing, and you’re doing it for the right reasons, you’ll keep going.”

Related Articles

Our Story

Our Story

The sum of our life is a compilation of our stories. The sad thing to me today is I see energy spent so much in celebrating other people’s stories. And men and women not creating their own.

I believe every day we get up, we have so much gas in our tank to get us from point A to point B, whatever we can do today, we don’t have tomorrow yet. We can’t do anything about yesterday, we have today.

How Losing Your Job Could Be the Best Thing to Happen to You

How Losing Your Job Could Be the Best Thing to Happen to You

It was May 2006 when I got my first proper job. I started my career as a recruitment consultant in London, working for one of the top finance recruiters in the UK. Not only would I be working for an award-winning recruitment company, I would be covering financial services (very prestigious) with uncapped earning potential. Ordinarily, none of this would have motivated me. But with many of my school friends working as investment bankers and lawyers, I felt a sense of pressure to be earning as much money as they were. And based purely on what others would think, I said goodbye to my original plan of starting my career in psychology.

Share This